I subscribe to a great site called Mamapedia that has many wonderful stories written by Mamas in the world. Along with the stories, are questions about any number of parenting topics. One quite often asked regards losing who we are when we become a Mommy.
Both men and women wear so many hats in their daily life. Wife, Husband, Provider, [insert title of job here], but none of those hats seem to cause as swift a feeling of loss of the old us as the hat of ‘Parent’. My husband and I are diligent in giving each other independent time so that we don’t lose the essence of us – as individuals and as husband and wife while we navigate the awesome yet often tumultuous time of parenthood. One such way we do this is by getting away, just the two of us every year for the weekend to Palm Springs.
The other thing I’ve diligently stuck to? My yearly girl’s trip. It’s nothing spectacular, it’s not with a ton of girls. My close girlfriend and I take a 3 day trip somewhere together every year to just have a little girl time fun. Last year, we went to New Orleans (because she has a timeshare and flights were priced right). This year, we kept costs down by not flying anywhere – we took a 5 hour train ride from San Diego to Santa Barbara. We spent the weekend window shopping (and shopping shopping) and wine tasting and just generally giggling about how old we are, but how happy we are. So, if you’re feeling a little, well not you, be sure to carve out some ME time. The Mommy in you will not regret it a bit.
Here are some pictures of our girl’s adventure – Santa Barbara 2012: